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Career Development classes are on break the month of May and will resume in early June. You may contact Gateway church for the latest schedule at 817-328-1000




Monday, September 20, 2010

Relationship is Knowing, Really Knowing

Who do you know so well that you can honestly say you really know them? Is it a spouse, best friend, parents, and / or kids?

I really know my wife. The kind of knowing that I know how she is going to react in most every circumstance. I know what she’s thinking when I catch her staring at something, I know her strengths and her weaknesses. Just being in her presence without a word spoken I know if something is bothering her. Do you have someone that you know that well?

It wasn’t always so with Shari and I – I must admit, in the beginning I realized quickly I needed to get to know her better for my own safety – actions to avoid that would bring on the wrath! :-) This took quite a bit of studying and watching and failing, but I eventually learned (self preservation kicked in). I then moved to a phase where I knew her well enough to manipulate her and get my way. I knew just what to say and do to get my selfish ways, although looking back I’m pretty sure she saw right through me, but gave me the benefit of the doubt. The knowledge was there, but the motives were all wrong - thank You Lord for helping our marriage survive that phase! The phase we enjoy now I can only describe as true love. Somewhere along the way I learned the beauty that motivates her, her dreams and desires for our family and for herself - somewhere along the way I finally started listening to her heart. Through the listening came that deep relationship where I long to bring her joy, and I know the little things that do so.

Scripture says Jesus is our husband and we are His bride. He longs for us to know Him like this. To dedicate the time studying Him, watching Him and listening to Him with our hearts. How He would respond in every circumstance; what and how He would say or ask in every response; When He would stand up and speak to the storm; how to speak to the Father. Can you finish His sentences? How much do you desire too? Ask Him to reveal ways we don’t know Him and things we believe in error. He loves spending time with us and revealing more and more of Himself to us. Holy Spirit revealed to me how my relationship with Jesus has been much like my marriage. When I first began to know Him it was for my own safety – I desperately needed a Savior. The more I got to know Jesus, the more I realized the power He has given us to access. It pains me to admit, but I began trying to manipulate Jesus to do my will. Although many times my intentions were noble, honest retrospect revealed it was still about me in ways. Oh Lord, thank You for Your love and patience, and that You are slow to anger! I still bounce in and out of the True Love and Manipulation phases of my relationship with Him, but I long to please Him, to do His will, to become little so He can become great in me. Not works, but love.

I long to know Him as my True Love spouse.

In Him, and all in!

Joe Borden

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Career Development Speaker Bio's

The following business executives and owners volunteer their time and expertise to this ministry. Thank each one of you for your service to the King of Kings!


Robert Fredella
Robert has held senior positions in the US Government and in Corporate America spanning a period of 35+ years. After retiring from the US government at the age of 45, with his last assignment being Program Director of a 5 year $250 million dollar project, he entered Corporate America as V/P of Information Technology for Pepsi Cola, and subsequently spanned his experience in other industries with huge growth companies holding senior positions in such companies as Qualcomm, in the communications sector and i2 Technologies in the high end software development sector. During the last four years he has been a consultant to Drake Beam Morin, one of the largest international job transition companies in the world, has started two companies, one of which he currently operates and is president of a Information Technology staffing company here in Dallas


Joe Borden
Joe has been in the staffing industry for 15 years as a Recruiter and Hiring Manager. Starting his career as a technical resource for GRiD and AST, Joe moved into management then technical recruiting with such companies as DPRC and Compuware. Co-Founder of two companies within the staffing industry – Wired For Hire and Coolersoft, Joe has a passion for helping people through the hiring process to the next opportunity God has planned for them. Joe serves on the Board of the Fort Worth FCA, and holds a Bachelors Degree in Computer Science from the University of North Texas.


Debb Knorr
Our new Career Development Administrator - more to come!


Rich Sanders
Rich is a hiring manager for American Honda Motor Co., Inc. working from the Regional office in Irving, Texas. He has served the company in a variety of capacities, most recently as Zone manager for the Automobile Division. As a hiring manager Rich has seen hundreds of resumes and conducted hundreds of interviews throughout the country. He has seen qualified candidates miss the cut simply because they didn’t have a good resume or didn’t have the interviewing skills necessary to reach the next level in the hiring process. Rich is a trained behavioral interviewer and loves to be involved in people’s lives where he can make a difference, especially in career development. He holds the belief that the career path of any individual be pursued from a Biblical perspective, by combining an individual’s God-given talents with their learned strengths and skills. Rich has written scores of resumes and has provided interviewing coaching in a variety of settings. His “ministry” is helping others, not just in a job search, but maximizing opportunities as they arise for long-term, career growth and development.


Sarah Harris
Sarah Harris, a successful entrepreneur, has operated two businesses in the Dallas/Ft. Worth area for over 17 years. Prior to business ownership, Sarah began her career in various sales positions throughout the U.S., and quickly promoted into Sales Management. In her last corporate position, she managed 17 sales reps with TST Impresso, in Coppell, TX. With an expertise in handling people and business, the next logical move was to start her own ventures: Prestige Design--a graphic design and printing firm; and Creative Surfaces, a construction company specializing in concrete stain application. Sarah’s experience and aptitude for design, customer service, marketing, and PR, served her well and led her to the next level, a call to ministry. With a heart for assisting men and women who are struggling with job search, Sarah has provided one-on-one career counseling from a biblical perspective through Gateway Church since 2003.


Nikki Nanos
Nikki Nanos graduated Magna Cum Laude with a Bachelor of Science Degree in Speech/Drama from Northern Michigan University in 1978. She continued her education at Northern one extra year to do a Graduate Directed Study in Directing and Acting. She completed her graduate studies in 1981 at California Institute of the Arts where she received a Master of Fine Arts in Acting. In 1989, Nikki was honored with an Outstanding Young Alumni Award from Northern Michigan University for her accomplishments in the entertainment industry. Nikki has worked in the theatre and film industry for over 20 years teaching acting, field producing and directing.

With the Lord's guidance and a passion for teaching and directing, Nikki found a way to utilize what she has learned in theatre and film and transfer that to the public speaking arena.